How people in recovery can prepare for the challenges of the holiday season

RICHMOND, Va. (WRIC) — For people in recovery from substance use disorder, the holiday season can bring added stress and anxiety, but local recovery experts say preparation and communication can make a significant difference.

While holiday celebrations can look different for everyone, gatherings often include alcohol, parties and complex family dynamics, which experts say can be triggers for people protecting their sobriety.

“The combination of all these things, the emotional stressors, along with the celebratory environment, it’s kind of a perfect storm for people who are in recovery,” said Benjamin Carr, director of recovery services at CARITAS.

CARITAS is a Richmond-based organization that supports individuals experiencing addiction and homelessness. Carr was first introduced to the organization as a client in 2017. As someone who has been in long-term recovery for eight years, Carr said maintaining sobriety during the holidays can feel overwhelming, but having a plan in place can reduce risk.

“It’s about being mindful and placing your recovery first,” Carr said. “That can include having an exit plan, bringing someone with you who’s also in a recovery mindset, or having an accountability partner... maybe a scheduled call or text with someone in your support group.”

Carr said his own personal experience allows him to connect with others.

“Being able to describe those feelings and that circumstance in a way that people not only know that I understand it, but also that helps with the level of connection that I think is truly beneficial,” Carr said. “It's the same level of connection that I was offered when I got here.”

Carr added that listening to internal warning signs can also help people make safer choices.

“There's this little voice inside us that tells us when we're uncomfortable and that we should maybe be making a different decision,” said Carr. “I would say the clearest warning sign at that point is that voice, and listening to it.”

Experts say planning ahead benefits not only those in recovery, but also loved ones who want to be supportive. Anna Murphy, director of The Healing Place, CARITAS’ recovery program, said clear communication before gatherings can help set expectations and prevent uncomfortable situations.

“Maybe that means not offering alcohol at your gatherings, or maybe allowing your loved one to bring someone with them from their support network that makes them comfortable,” Murphy said.

She said anyone can be a recovery ally by learning how to offer encouragement.

“There are trainings people can take to learn how to use de-stigmatizing language and how to be supportive, both to themselves and to people in recovery,” Murphy said.

Carr emphasized that feelings of isolation are common during the holidays, even when surrounded by others. He encouraged people in recovery, as well as those struggling with substance use disorder, to reach out when they need support.

“Know that you’re not alone,” Carr said. “You can feel isolated in a room full of people, but there are others just like you everywhere. Sometimes it’s just about reaching out.”

More information and recovery resources are available at caritasva.org.